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How many times have you judged someone without thinking why he/she was doing that thing, or acting that way? How many times have you gone crazy on the traffic because a girl or a guy was tailgating you or wanted to overtake your car, or he/she started honking the car horn?
Note that I didn’t ask if you have judged… I asked HOW MANY TIMES because I know you have. I have. We all have. That’s our human nature but we are rational animals, which means we can try to be a better person each day and avoid some situations. When people do things differently from what we were expecting, we tend to judge them.
Ok, not all judgments are bad. Not all judgments are hurtful or painful or wrong, but most of them are. And those are the ones that I mean in this English Bite and no, I don’t mean to stop this “bad behavior” in everyone’s life but I would like at least, to make you think and reconsider before you judge, giving them the benefit of doubt.
There’s a really nice story that tells exactly what I’m trying to say:
A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call asap, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.
On seeing him, the father yelled, “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?”
The doctor smiled and said, “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came as fast as I could after receiving the call and now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”.
“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies while waiting for the doctor than what will you do??” said the father angrily. The doctor smiled again and replied, “We will do our best by God’s grace and you should also pray for your son’s healthy life”.
“Giving advises when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.
The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank goodness! your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running by saying, “If you have any questions, ask the nurse”.
“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left. The nurse answered, tears coming down her face, “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”
Well guys, it’s a sad but true story. I get sooooo mad when I see some English teachers on Instagram or YouTube judging other English teachers when they don’t know how much that person worked hard or what difficulties he or she had and that he or she is giving her best – judging by saying: HOW COME HER OR HIS PRONUNCIATION IS NOT PERFECT? HE’S AN ENGLISH TEACHER! Oh, gimme a break! Boring!
Or even in the traffic. We don’t know if that guy was speeding because he’s just heard his mom had a heart attack and is in the hospital between life and death. Or maybe your boss is being a little bitch because of her toxic marriage. We don’t know and we never will. So that’s why I try really hard every day to give someone the benefit of doubt when I’m about to judge.
Every human being undergoes a different experience in his life and develops a different understanding of the world based on his own personal experiences. It is for this reason that we fail to understand other people since their experiences and our experiences are never the same.
And there’s one more thing: judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are.
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