Hey guys! Welcome to our ENGLISH BITES – The simplest, easiest and best way to practice your listening – the only one that is 100% created, executed and delivered from me to you – This is Erika Belmonte speaking and I’ll be more than pleased to be here with you guys three times a week and I’m pretty sure we’ll have a great time together – because more than learning and improving your English, I also want you to have some fun through a very exclusive content.
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Last episode I shared a very interesting story called “KILL THE COW” and what I wanted to share with you is that we gotta find a way to step out our comfort zone. We are so used to living our lives the same way, doing the same old things like we always do and that are comfortable for us, that we don’t feel like changing or taking risks. But the point is: if we don’t kill our cow, if we don’t go after new goals or new challenges, we will never grow, change for better or have different and better results in our lives.
And I’m not talking about learning English. I’m pretty sure there’s a bunch of things that you feel upset, frustrated, uncomfortable and that you wish they could be different. Think about it: Did you ever do something you were really proud of when you were in autopilot mode? I’m pretty sure the answer will be NO because we get proud of ourselves when we do things we couldn’t imagine we were capable of, when we overcome our limits, … but yeah, we only realize that after we do it and then we think: “why haven’t I done it before?” or “why did I take so long to do it?”
The point is, when we’re doing something that seems to be perfect and right, we don’t wanna change. Who wants to change something that’s working? Oh, things could better but why changing?
There’s a famous phrase that says: “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” – in other words, if you recognize that something is in a satisfactory state, so there is no reason to try to change it!
And that phrase it’s ok if you agree and you’re fully happy with the situation, but in my humble opinion, don’t stay there for too long. Don’t get too comfortable for too long. Try something new or in a new way. If all goes wrong, at least you’ve learned something. And leaning is always positive because it will make you a better and smarter person each day.
It’s ok to be scared to fail specially because no one wants to fail, right? Any new activity always feels awkward and stressful at first, but the more you do it, the more comfortable it will be.
Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, is the key to overcoming this fear.
I got really happy to know you guys loved to hear our last story KILL THE COW and since we’re still talking about the same topic, I’d like to add one more very awesome story but this one I’d say it’s a little different cause it’s a true story. It’s called: A LESSON FROM LOBSTERS.
If you’ve ever eaten a lobster, you know that they’re soft, mushy animals that live inside of rigid, stiff shells. What I bet you didn’t know about a lobster was that as lobsters grow, they cast off their shells and grow new ones.
What’s really incredible about the way lobsters cast their shells is not the process of how it happens, but rather the reason they do it. The stimulus that alerts a lobster of its need to form a new shell is the feeling of confinement, discomfort and pressure it feels after its mushy body has grown and the shell is no longer suitable for it.
So the lobster retreats under a rock to avoid predators, casts of its shell, and a bigger one grows that properly fits. When the lobster is again confronted with the feeling of anxiety and confinement of not comfortably fitting in its little home of a shell, it repeats the process.
And yes, we can learn a lot from the way lobsters cast their shells because they won’t grow if they don’t it, if they keep themselves comfortable in their shells!!!
There are some things that I do when I wanna change the course of something but I feel discouraged or even lazy:
- The first one is “the 5 second rule” – I basically countdown from 5 to 0 and action – I do what I have to. I don’t give my brain a voice like “Nah, Erika. You don’t need to do it right now”.
If I’m supposed to do what I had to but I’m scared or feel lazy… 5,4,3,2,1 GO! Every time I do it, it works!
- Baby steps: I don’t do everything at once. Ok, there are some things I wanna change, but changing everything won’t work. I pick one and I focus on that task until it’s automatic or I feel comfortable with. And then (usually after some months, I choose another one).
- Visualizing the outcomes I want – that’s my favorite. I’m usually too imaginative so if there’s something that’s bothering me so much, I try to visualize how things would be if I were or if things were the way I wanted. I really imagine myself in that situation, in that new scenario or lifestyle… and every single day I picture that over and over again. It motivates me so much that I feel like doing something different and as I said before, one step at a time.
Well guys, these two episodes were focused on something that I consider very very important to transform our mindset and have different outcomes. I want you not only to listen to these English Bites and practice your English, but I want you to think about it over and over again. If you take it seriously, you can write a new story to your life. We all can do it. You can do it and I believe in you!
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